"They say “don’t let the world make you hard.”
I say, “screw that.”
I’m not going to soften up my edges,
be nice when I don’t need to nor want to,
plaster a smile for others’ sake,
or bandage up broken pieces so you won’t get cut.
If you come back knocking on my door,
I’m going to tell you that this is not your home any longer.
Closed door, brutal honesty, and a path away from me.
Even if it hurts (you or me or both).
If it’s someone else, someone new,
I’m not going to open my door.
Let him rip it off from its hinges.
Let him pace back and forth on the doorstep.
I won’t eat up the sugary words and gleaming smiles.
I don’t want to be soft for anyone.
If you want to barge into my home,
beware of shaky hands, haggard breaths, and jagged words.
It’s not logical to let burnt up hearts or persistent loneliness
turn you into something close to a monster,
but I don’t want to be logical about this either.
Screw not being hard.
I can be soft and hard all at once.
I will be soft and hard all at once.
I’m going to build walls if I want to,
but that doesn’t mean I’m barricading myself from everyone.
If I have to show you my demons, I will.
We all have skeletons lying somewhere.
Protected. Hidden. Unwanted. Unforgettable.
We have been burned before,
but every inch was covered up.
Layers and layers of facade.
Real to you. False to others.
But it fools not only them, but yourself as well.
You see, the world shouldn’t be a play -
there’s no time to pretend and put up an act,
even though we’re all good at this game.
I’ll wear my hard like it’s second skin.
Let see if you can handle it,
then maybe you’ll feel the soft in it too.
Take my flawed skin, dark eyes, and messed up soul -
every gory piece of me.
Honesty at its finest.
Brutality at its worst.
But oh how real."
"When you love someone:
- Don’t take each other for granted.
- Stop assuming you need to have sex to be intimate.
- Go on dates, PROPER dates.
- Dress formally for dates, and turn off your phones.
- Call, don’t text.
- Talk, don’t grunt.
- Surprise each other with little notes or flowers.
- Stop comparing your relationship to others.
- Have time apart as well as time together.
- Keep your own identity.
- Love as deeply as possible, don’t hold back.
- Be honest, at all times."
"Introverts, in contrast, may have strong social skills and enjoy parties and business meetings, but after a while wish they were home in their pajamas. They prefer to devote their social energies to close friends, colleagues, and family. They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of small talk, but enjoy deep discussions."